If you want to know what to talk about with a girl so you will TURN HER ON and she will either THROW herself at you, or virtually guarantee that you could go for the kiss (or more) and score with her, then it’s essential that you learn this easy trick to say exactly what women like to hear.
If you’re a single man, New Year’s Eve is one of those holidays like Halloween or Valentines Day when men and women across the globe are hooking up like MAD! Except it’s even better because of the new year’s eve tradition to kiss someone at midnight.
If you know How To Kiss A Girl on New Year’s Eve, then this night is like a all-you-can-kiss buffet! However, if you’re like most guys…
I’m going to give you a solid gameplan on How To Kiss A Girl on New Year’s Eve that will take all the pressure off so you can DEVASTATE your competition. In fact, I’m going to show you how to get more than one kiss on New Year’s Eve!
First, let me tell you about…
Why Most Guys Buckle Under The Pressure To Kiss At Midnight
The most simple and effective technique you can use to create a wave of attraction that will have women chasing you around the room at any bar, club or lounge is to walk around and give cheers.
Giving cheers is a way of giving out fun energy, and fun is a natural aphrodisiac to women. Just have a look at most women’s profiles on Internet dating sites and you will see the word “fun” popping up over and over again. When women are asked which qualities they find the most attractive in a man, “a guy who is fun” always makes in the top 10.
Obviously fun is very important to women, so I think learning how to have it could really improve our dating lives. Giving cheers is probably the best way to practice your fun skills if you are starting your social life from scratch.
The way to give cheers in a way that makes a powerful impression that can be broken down into three steps:
Before you walk over there, take a deep breath and put a big, friendly smile on your face. A warm smile will make your first impression twice as effective and will disarm even the coldest ice queen from rejecting you. In fact, walking up with a big smile is often enough to not even have to say anything at all.
Almost everyone at these parties are already in a conversation, so it’s natural that conversations get interrupted all the time. People generally won’t take it personally if you are interrupting in a friendly way because everyone is there to meet people and socialize. Interrupting is okay as long as you do it in a polite and friendly way that gives them the chance to acknowledge you first.
The best way to interrupt without being rude is to move into their field of vision then extend your hand out to cheers them. It’s important that you get into their physical space. Think of it as though your best friends were having a conversation across the room and you walk into the circle to join them. Extend your glass into their field of vision so that they know that you are trying to cheers them, that way they can’t ignore you. Sometimes it’s a good idea to say “hey guys” in a comfortably loud enough voice while you extend your hand so that they hear you, too. As long as you commit to getting their attention first, they won’t be likely to ignore you.
DO NOT make the deadly mistake of approaching from behind and yelling “Cheers” before they have acknowledged you. That will only startle and frighten them. Being the guy who abruptly startled them is not the kind of first impression you want to leave with somebody.
When you give cheers, look the person in the eye with a big confident smile that shows you are certain that they will cheers the back. By showing any self-doubt that they won’t give cheers back, they will show that same hesitance back. Even if you don’t feel that confident, extend your hand all the way out there within a few inches of their glass or bottle, then tap your glass into various. I know it sounds like some weird hokey nonsense, but the more confident that you cheers them, the more confident they will cheers you back. When you try this new will see what I mean.
If you do this enough times in one night, you will create what a wave of attraction throughout the room called “The Mayor Effect.” In my book, “Social Life from Scratch”, I go into depth on how to use this technique and others to create The Mayor Effect without being ignored that will have women coming back to talk to you later and asking for your phone number. If you are being ignored by the girls you approach at bars and clubs, you NEED to read this:
How To Pick Up Women In Nightclubs
Go out and have some fun tonight! Spread some fun energy and give cheers! Then send me an e-mail and let me know how it goes.
In this video you’ll learn how to avoid making the CRITICAL MISTAKE that most guys make that prevents them from meeting twice the number women they could be meeting.
Written by on July 31, 2009
Posted in Getting Started, Less Is More, Social Life, Videos, Women Chase You
On the same day he read my new e-book, Lucas was already getting unbelievable results with women:
Lucas writes:
I got a sneaky kiss out of her and an exchange of details. She texted me 15 minutes after leaving wanting to hang out again as I was super fun and social. I replied the next day and we continued to chat throughout the day… Now I apparently have a ‘date’ on Wednesday. I call it a ‘date’, but in all honesty I’m taking her to a chilled jazz bar where a bunch of my friends will be chilling out and bringing her to hang with us.
Since the raving debut of my book, Social Circle From Scratch, I keep remembering TONS of powerful techniques that I forgot to include in my book.
Fear not, loyal readers! I will be sharing the best of the best with you, starting with a simply powerful conversation starter that will have you charming groups of beautiful women.
How often do you make goals for yourself and actually follow-through with them?
As men, the primary form of currency that gains us respect from other men is our word. When you are known to be “a stand-up guy”, “a solid dude”, or “a man of his word”, you are recognized as someone who can be trusted. In this world it is hard to find good people who can be relied upon, so being reliable is a major asset in your social and business life.
Do not underestimate the power of your word! I’m going to say that again just to emphasize how important this is…
Do not underestimate the power of your word!
As The Wu-Tang Clan says, “Word is bond!” In other words, your bond with other people is only as good as your word. Flaky people usually have other flaky friends, and by surrounding yourself by people like that, you’re basically inviting terminates to wreak havoc on the structure of your social network.
Although we might have an image of who we are as a reliable person, our minds have an amazing ability to distort reality. We often see ourselves the way we want to, instead the way we are. Maybe we are reliable on small things, but when push comes to shove, are we truly dependable?
We make claims about all the big goals we’re going to accomplish, we make it our story and tell everyone about it, then we abandon all our goals and rationalize it by telling ourselves, “I would have done that, but I didn’t really want to do that anyways.” We change over time, but if we look at our goals from just a few months ago, how drastically have they changed? If you answered “drastically” then you really must hear my experience…
I’ve been a goal-setter since I was very young, but even though I’d have longs lists of all the things I was going to do, there’d always be goals that I skipped, until eventually I’d tell myself, “I never really wanted to do that anyways,” and strike them off the list.
It wasn’t until one day when I was talking to a business associate, someone who I have a great deal of respect for, who sat me down and explained to me that in business the most important element of any relationship is our word. Without our word, we win short-term gains and lose on greater opportunities. Without our word we tarnish our reputation. Without our word we limit our growth so incredibly to the point that we virtually are never growing at all. Suddenly, a cloud was lifted from my eyes…
Although I saw myself as reliable and committed, I was often copping-out on my commitments. It wasn’t that I was lying about my commitments. In fact, in the moment I’d commit to something, I truly believed myself that I would do what I said I’d do. However, over time my mind would come up with creative was to escape my commitments and rationalize it somehow.
My relationship with myself has not been totally reliable, and it was reflected in my relationships with others. As the saying goes, “the way you do one thing is the way you do everything.”
As this truth started to reveal itself, it became clear that I had to change to grow. I decided that I’m going to weigh every single word I say before making commitments. I’m going to stop making promises I can’t keep and offering things I don’t have. I’m going to be a man of my word.
It hasn’t been long since that day, but in the days that have passed since then, everything has changed. I wake up and instead of telling myself, “I’ll just snooze and do it later”, I jump out of bed enthusiastically and say, “I’ll do it now”, because I know I’d be lying to myself otherwise. When a friend invites me to a party, if I really don’t want to go and don’t plan on going, I don’t say, “I’ll be there!” then break the plan because I scheduled three other meetings at the same time, I just don’t commit if I’m not certain.
With this new perspective, I know that if I make a commitment and break it, I’m just lying to myself. This new-found wisdom has led me to step up to a lot bigger challenges and do instead of talking.
Based on these experiences, I’d guess that if you are failing to keep commitments to yourself, you are probably flaking out on commitments to others, too. Do you find ways to rationalize your failure to accomplish your goals? I invite you to try this exercise because I think it could help you:
Think of that one goal you keep saying you’ll do and keep avoiding. The last time you actually had the opportunity to act upon it, what was the creative excuse you made to avoid it? Write down all the different excuses that you’ve used.
Now, with all these excuses in front of you it probably seems so obvious that you’re only kidding yourself. So how are you going to actually take action on this goal? Here’s a great way to break that pattern: The next time one of these excuses comes up, ask yourself, “Am I inventing things to avoid the important?” (credit: Tim Ferriss)
Once you start to get in the habit of catching yourself making excuses, you will gain awareness of yourself. Integrity is doing what you say you’re going to do — that’s it. Catch yourself in the act and you are building integrity.
Give it a try and share your results in the comments!
Written by on September 14, 2008
Posted in Authenticity, Inner Game, Relationships, Social Life
They say that relationships require compromise to work. That’s true.
…but they didn’t tell you _what_ to compromise.
The kind of compromise that kills attraction happens long before a relationship ever begins. It happens when men compromise themselves to get laid.
How are guys compromising themselves? By telling themselves things like…
_”She has a negative attitude, but that’s the trade-off for a girl this hot.”_
_”She has a drug problem, but she’s probably cool when she’s sober.”_
_”She’s a drama queen — but she’s sooo HOT!”_
…and the list goes on.
It sounds like a great strategy: overlook her flaws so they don’t get in the way of you and her sleeping together. So you do, and suddenly the attraction is gone and you can’t figure out why.
_”I did everything she asked. I changed myself for her. Why isn’t she attracted? What woman could possibly resist this offer?”_
Why wouldn’t they want a guy who is an easy catch?
…Because **quality is what you work for.** People simply don’t place much value on what they don’t work for or get for free.
So how do you become a catch? It starts with defining yourself.
* **Pick The Right Woman.** Get out a piece of paper and draw a line down the middle. Title the left side Must Have, and title the right side Turn Ons.
Write down two Must Have qualities that any woman must have before you even consider dating her. (The more specific the better!)
Do you only want to date models and actresses? Do you only want to date women who have healthy relationships? Then overlook dating any woman who doesn’t meet that criteria.
Write down three Turn Ons that any woman has that you really find attractive, but it isn’t what makes or breaks the deal. For example, maybe you really like blonds, but a hot brunette still has a chance with you.
* **Deal-breakers.** Like when you wrote your preferences down, except on the left side write Deal-Breakers and on the right side write Pain in the Ass.
Things that are a Pain in the Ass might annoy you somewhat, but they’re only minor inconveniences. If a woman does anything you wrote under Deal-Breakers, you have to walk away.
I know, it seems crazy to start rejecting any woman who crosses a line, especially if she’s really attractive. You might even get laid if you let a few deal-breakers slide!
…but the reality is that settling for mediocrity only gets you more mediocrity. Most guys who settle for relationships below their standards never advance until they come to the point of deciding to no longer accept the deal breakers.
So all we’re doing here is taking a shortcut that is going to save you years of grief and put you on the path to finding the right girl. Skip all the hassle of dating drama queens and psychotics. Your ideal dating life only happens when you accept what’s good enough for you.
* **When in doubt, say no.** When you give this a try and start filtering out women, you might find that maybe you’re being too strict or too lenient.
I’m a believer that it’s better to err on the side of too strict, rather than too lenient. With some practise you’ll learn when you’re over-reacting or under-reacting, but in the meantime, just say no when you feel like you might be compromising yourself.
Two minutes later you realize what you could have said and you’re kicking yourself because you know the moment is gone.
An hour before it happens, you think of what you want to say, but when the moment arrives your delivery of the words comes across as contrived and pretentious.
The words you’re holding back and the words you wish you’d said are all that stands between you and your authentic self.
Say it fucking now.
Say it now because for every decision you make, right or wrong, you are gaining experience.
Say it now because in ten days or ten years none of this will matter.
Say it now because authenticity isn’t about what you say or how you say it, but when you say it.
Say it fucking now.
A few minutes after smiling at each other across the room, I was sitting at her table. She asked me, “So what is this?”, pointing to the band’s logo on the hoodie I was wearing.
“Oh, that… They’re a band my friend is touring with. Actually, I’m not a fan at all, but I got this for free. Actually, I don’t even like it. Actually, I don’t even know why I’m wearing it, really.”
Suddenly I found myself reflecting back on the past couple years all in that moment. It’s been years since I stumbled upon this pickup community. I sometimes forget where I was, and how I got here.
When I moved out to Vancouver, sold everything I owned, said goodbye to my friends and lovers, it got easier for me to keep giving up everything.
As proficient as I’ve become in giving up, I recently decided to take it a step further. Why not give everything up? Not in some kind of Tibetan monk way (or maybe it is?), but I decided that if there was anything about my life that I wanted to change, why not give myself a clean slate to become whoever I want?
So I asked myself…
**What if I had no attachments to anyone or anything?**
_How would things be different?_
_What would I do with my new freedom?_
_What would I say, do, act, wear?_
_Where would I hang out?_
_What will my purpose in life be?_
_Where will I live?_
And so on…
What I realized when I was talking with this girl is that when we make radical transformations we go through a phase of being uncertain about who we are. We’ve shed our old skin, and that skin was all that we knew, so we’re still trying to come to terms with the person we’re becoming.
Right now, I’m working on being secure with the fact that I’m insecure in my own identity, and that’s my own issue. It’s all part of the process, and I’m becoming more aware all the time.
Now that I’ve gone through this, reinventing myself is something I will make a regular habit. Maybe once a month, maybe once a week, maybe everyday.