> If at first you don’t succeed, try, try again. Then quit. There’s no point in being a damn fool about it.”
> ~ W. C. Fields
Sometimes we try something new, and when we don’t see immediate results we are quick to condemn and say, _”Bah! This doesn’t work.”_
Maybe it was that new diet you tried, and after a week your weight hadn’t changed so you gave up and said, _”Bah! This diet doesn’t work.”_
Maybe you read about a new pickup technique, but it didn’t get the results that you were promised so you threw your hands up and scowled, _”Bah! This technique doesn’t work.”_
Sure, some things are just a waste of time, and that’s just the way it is, but when it comes to pickup, it helps us to be thorough and experiment before we condemn.
Before you condemn, ask yourself the following questions:
* **Did you stick to the plan?** You’re out meeting women, putting this great new approach you’ve learnt to the test, and everything is going great. Suddenly, this urge to do things that old way pops up. _”Maybe,”_ you think, _”it will be different this time. I know the guru said not to do this, but I’m going to try anyways.”_ Naturally, everything falls apart, then you rush home to the online forums and post, _”That guy’s technique doesn’t work!”_
If you want to get the most out of what a guru teaches, stick to the plan. First, get comfortable at doing things the way you’ve been taught to do them. After that you will be able to innovate and reach an even higher level.
* **Are you committed to making this work?** There are few techniques you can try and expect to work for you right off the bat. So, when you are out having a good time and experimenting with what you learn, hang in there until it works. Of course, if you try something thirty times and keep getting poor results, it is probably time to try a different approach.
For any new general style of pickup, I’ve found that a good policy for experimenting is to commit to a [30-day trial](http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2005/04/30-days-to-success/) where you follow that style, and only that style. Suspend all disbelief for that time, and if it doesn’t work by then, look into a different approach.
*Remember:* the experts that teach this stuff aren’t responsible for making this stuff work — it’s up to us. Some of it takes time, some of it works instantaneously, and sometimes we just have to move on and try something new.
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I like this post. I definetly agree that you need to actually commit to and TRY something fully and completely for a period of time, before you can discard it. If what you tried didn’t work, change your approach. And keep changing it until you get the result that you want.